What part of the world are you in? (RAS/Usenet is world wide !)

Can you give some examples of "I'll tell you what to do"
instructions that you've received ?

What aspects of flying are you having difficulty with (or your
instructors think you're having difficulty with)?

2) Be shown and then do,

That is how I was taught both power and gliding. Most subjects should
also be briefed on the *ground* before getting up into the air.

There is a ton of info on aviation on the 'net. For "primary" flight
control, you can use most of power aircraft theory, i.e. "flying by
attitude / reference to the horizon", navigation, aerodynamics.

Here's one great site to start with http://www.av8n.com/how/

Mike