No one said it was rocket science. This pilot wasn't clear on something
and did the right thing before attempting it -- ASK! Regardless of the
reason (an "original" CFI that didn't spend enough time on it, an
examiner that did not cover it, a lot of time passing between having
learned it but never actually *done* it, he/she should not be made to
feel ashamed or belittled for ASKING for help/advice ... which is
exactly the attitude you took.

Matt Whiting wrote:
No, that isn't the attitude I took at all. I think it was great he
asked for advice. It was some of the advice that I took exception with,
not the asking for it. Read it again, Sam...

No need to re-read.
Yes, he asked for advice, and you took exception with the person who
suggested he take a CFI along, belittling the idea that any licensed
pilot should need or want a CFI for refresher in doing a landing on a
surface he's never experienced before ... just because YOUR way of
expanding your skill happens to be trying it on your own.

Grass strips in general aren't soft fields.

They generally are soft where I am, as are the dirt/sand strips.

I gave him a very correct answer for the question he asked.

Debatable.

Others seemed to want to give him answers for a lot of
questions he didn't ask.

He asked about landing on grass. Others pointed out that the surface
beneath the grass may have any number of inconsistencies, including a
soft surface. You, on the other hand, would have him think that there is
only ONE correct answer -- YOURS, that grass strips are not soft fields.