"DH" == Dudley Henriques writes:

DH The best way to handle these issues is to start immediately to
DH convince her that rather than denying any danger exists, you
DH are completely aware of the potential for danger in flying and
DH are capable of avoiding that danger by the way you approach
DH the issue of flying.

And this (saying you are are a safe pilot) is easier if you are a safe
person.

Do you speed on the highway? Zip between lanes?

Reckless with money or other areas of life that give her cause to
doubt?

My wife and I have an understanding, mostly unspoken but very real: I
don't twist her arm to go flying with me, she doesn't nag me to
stop. I don't take stupid risks, she doesn't stupidly question why I
like to fly. Maybe that's where you'll have to arrive.
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