a writes:

There are several different 'models' of the world here. Many here,
including you, experienced something like this

"Outer Marker Inbound"

"Contact tower now, on nnn.m"

"Going to nnn.m, thanks"

tower says visibility a half mile, ceiling 250 feet, winds 20 gusts 30
at 140 degrees, and you're inbound to runway 10. That's a serious
crosswind.

hand fly down, needles pretty much where they should be, very bumpy,
very dark. The missed approach is memorized, a decision already made
that the alternate, 150 miles away, is what'll happen if the airport
environment isn't in sight at minimums

Through 230 feet agl, big bounces, and there are the lead in strobes,
15 degrees from where the airplane is pointing, exactly where I
thought they'd appear.

Transition to visual, carry an extra 8 knots into the flare, only 20
degrees of flaps, and I start sucking them up going into the flare,
because I want this thing to be done flying when it's on the runway.
The upwind wheel makes contact, then the other main. Flaps retracted
(I know my airplane well enough, and verify time and again my finger
is on the flap control.

I did this, too, a few flights ago. What's different?

Roll out turn off, get to my tiedown, shut down, tie that baby down
in driving rain, get soaked, get into the car, as high on.Maslow's
hierarchy as one can get, and drive home to a loving wife and a glass
of wine.

My simulation stops with the tiedown, which is exactly where I prefer it to
stop.

Coming up on a simulated 400 feet agl, no buffeting, not feeling the
yoke alive in your hands, not having the sensation of a wing lifting
in a gust, the only evidence of a wind shear being what? change in
indicated airspeed, change in indicated pitch, with no physical
sensations to play with your senses?

Which version of MSFS are you using? I get most of that except for the
physical sensations.

To my mind, and I am sure yours, there is a significant difference in
the physiological and psychological rewards between the two models. It
is not easily explained to someone who has experienced our real
world.

It depends on what you get out of flying.