Just a thought...............I noticed your remark about wishing you
had learnt to use a rudder before? Di you by chance learn on a
hang-glider.
A "flare" in a hg is NOT the same thing when the terminology is
applyied to gliders.
You don't want to raise the nose to get airspeed down and then "stall"
it on...like you would in a hangie.
Cheers
Mark