How to find a CFII?

I am ready to start working on my IFR training. I took an intensive
weekend crash course to pass the written and got a 93%, so that's out
of the way.

My CFI for my private was fabulous, but he was a real drill sergeant.
He's also no longer in the area. I have read Joe Campbell's IFR Diary
and that really isn't how I want to learn this time around. Maybe I'm
wrong, but I want a cool, calm, collected, thinking man's instructor.
Maybe it will take me longer than getting dropped into the war zone,
but for me I think it will be a better way to go.

I fly out of Centennial (APA) in Denver, CO. There are a couple of
large flight schools on the field with 30+ CFII's each plus a couple of
smaller clubs. My PPL examiner suggested a couple. How do you go about
finding a good one?

I am thinking about starting in a simulator for ten or so hours. I
thought I might try 5 instructors at two hours each and see how it
goes.

Any thoughts?